Keys2Friendship

The end of a friendships is usually due to a lack of communication, or by a completely mule headed move by one party or the other. In my life I have learned that "true" friendships are hard to keep, maybe that's due to my type of personality or maybe it is because I just don't try hard enough to keep them alive.

This is absolutely essential to any friendship. It's just as important as it is in marriage. The old adage applies here "out of sight, out of mind", although, in the world today that could be "you don't call, neither will I". If you find your phone calls or visits to or from a friend lessen at an increasing pace, chance are your friendship is deteriorating right in front of you. If this is something you do not want to happen, I suggest you make an effort to be the one who reaches out, calls or visits. People today are so busy with things like work and marriage, kids and school, that's it's just become too easy to lose touch. And once it is lost, it can be very hard to get back.

You also have to realize that people have fights, or say mean things, or God forbid, forget something important to you like a birthday, to prevent your friendship from permanently ending. Chances are, if you have been friends with someone for a number of years, it's fair to say that one or all of these are going to happen in your friendship. You can refer to that like this, shit happens. What you can do is easy as pie (you ever made pie, it's not easy, it's quite complex, so where does that saying come from, I digress), just keep in mind people have bad days, including yourself, after all we are not perfect. You have to be willing to accept or to ask for an apology. Things don't have to end just because of a fight or misunderstanding. It all comes down to this, get over it, unless it is something absolutely unforgivable.

If you can not grasp this theory, then your friendship will start to dwindle and then finally fade into nothing. When this happens, often the friendship can never fully recover, no matter how many attempts you make or how hard you try, the friendship you once had is most likely ruined. The times that you spent together, the good times, the laughter, the shared secrets, may very well wind up becoming just a memory.

 I urge you not to let this happen to you, don't let a true friendship end just because you stay mad and hold a grudge. Grudges are bad for our soul and can hold us down. True friendship is more precious than gold, everyone needs that one friend they can talk openly to, laugh at ridiculous things with, or if it calls for it, even share a cry with, and no amount of gold can make you feel as truly and honestly blessed as having a best friend with you throughout the journey of your life.